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Non-dual Therapy and Counselling in Leicester and Online

Non-dual Therapy

“…you feel separate from your true Self, and you are trying to become reunited; that is yoga.”

– Nisargadatta Maharaj

My name is Nic Higham, I’m a counsellor based in Leicester, UK offering non-dual therapy. A big influence on the way I work with people and experience life in general, comes from the ancient spirtual philosophy of non-duality (or Advaita), specifically the teaching of Nisargadatta Maharaj.

While you definitely don’t need to see yourself as a ‘spiritual person’ to work with me, suffering is part of the human condition and can be a catalyst for spiritual insight if we are able to mindfully hold and attend to it. Sometimes we need the help of a caring teacher, helper, guide, healer or therapist to safely and effectively do so. With facilitated inquiry and someone to compassionately hold space, we find that our suffering consists of thoughts, feelings and mental images of desire and fear, and ultimately a sense of separateness. As I write abut in my non-duality book, in a multitude of ways we seek an end to the brokenness we experience and with which we have wrongly but innocently identified.

The way I work with clients is based predominantly on the teaching of the great Adviata teacher Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj (1897 – 1981), specifically what he called Nisarga Yoga, meaning ‘Natural Unity’. This kind of yoga is not a physical practice, but a blend of simple and effective principles of meditation and self-inquiry which I bring into a therapeutic space.

“I don’t ask anybody to follow any particular path. I just tell them to be what they are, in their natural, spontaneous state. Stabilize there, in the beingness.”

– Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

“… a full-spectrum path of spirituality and healing must address multiple dimensions of what it means to be an open, awake, and compassionate human being. Meditation, emotional healing, psychological work, relational maturity, and being grounded in the body are all required to live lives of freedom, connectedness, and presence. Even if we have a profound spiritual realization, but the fruits of that realization do not infuse the relative world of our body, emotions, relationships, and work in the world, we sense something is missing.”

“Nic speaks from the depths of his heart, sharing the profound and ancient message of non-duality in a simple, human, and very down-to-earth way. He doesn’t just lecture about Oneness; through his work in mental health he has been ‘putting theory into practise’ for many years now. With incredible patience, Nic meets with all kinds of people from all kinds of backgrounds who are often in profound distress, and brings deep listening and loving presence, which I believe are the foundations of true healing.”

Jeff Foster, author of The Deepest Acceptance and Falling in Love with Where You Are

Nisarga Yoga is a powerful exploration of one’s body and mind, and life as a whole. It’s the work of Consciousness (Being, I-Am-ness, presence) of identifying, embracing and releasing the limiting self-concepts we take ourselves to be in order to unveil the truth of what we are.

I offer a caring reflective setting for the clarification of the body-mind (often characterised and clouded by energies and stories of desire and fear) and the blossoming of Self-Awareness. Nisarga Yoga is the ultimate search within, and to delve into our immediate sense of Being in order to connect with its non-dual source is the heart of Maharaj’s approach. I do not, however, negate our miraculous humanness and the sometimes painful stories it ensues which I believe need and deserve understanding, compassion and attention. If we take time to look within and learn to trust and follow our knowledge and feeling ‘I Am’, we gradually unveil the natural unity (non-duality), security and fulfilment that we already are.

What is non-duality? How to define non-duality or Advaita? Here’s a good attempt:

“The message of Advaita (non-duality) is that there is only one. There is only one presence/awareness— one being. You are that presence/awareness— that beingness— in which the universe and all possibilities arise. The apparent two, you and me, are really just the one and there is nothing but that. Everything that is, exists within what you are so it is not separate from you. Everything is really the same thing, at best just appearance or movement of energy expressing in countless forms. But, creation itself is finite to the presence/awareness that contains it.”

—John Greven, Oneness: The Destination You Never Left

If this page resonates with you and you’d like to arrange a session, please contact me. We can either meet in person at my private practice at Leicester Centre for Psychodynamic Counselling, or online via Skype. Sessions last 50 minutes and cost £40.

£30 for further education, university students and unwaged

Please send me a message, along with your contact details, and I will respond to you as soon as I can. If we both feel counselling could help you, we can arrange to meet face-to-face to discuss your difficulties and the possibility of further sessions.

Nisarga Yoga Quotes

More at www.nisargayoga.org and in the blog section of this site

Quotes by and about Nisargadatta Maharaj from books, free PDFs, and audio from original satsang (spiritual discourse) 

 

“The only thing I can be sure about is that ‘I am’; not as a thinking ‘I am’ in the Cartesian sense, but without any predicates. Again and again Maharaj draws our attention to this basic fact in order to make us realise our ‘I am-ness’ and thus get rid of all self-made prisons. He says: The only true statement is ‘I am’. All else is mere inference.”

Douwe Tiemersma (from the foreword to the book ‘I Am That’)

“Although you take yourself as an individual, your ‘I Am’ knowledge is the yoga (union) of the five elements and the three qualities [gunas]… Meditate on your beingness…”

– Nisargadatta Maharaj

“To delve into the sense of ‘I’ — so real and vital — in order to reach its source is the core of Nisarga Yoga.”

Maurice Frydman (From ‘I Am That’, a book about Nisarga Yoga)

“Be interested in yourself beyond all experience, be with yourself, love yourself; the ultimate security is found only in self-knowledge. The main thing is earnestness. Be honest with yourself and nothing will betray you…”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“To act from desire and fear is bondage, to act from love is freedom.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“Desire and fear are the obscuring and distorting factors. When mind is free of them the unconscious becomes accessible.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“If you want to be beyond suffering, you must meet it half way and embrace it. Relinquish your habits and addictions, live a simple and sober life, don’t hurt a living being; this is the foundation of Yoga.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“If you want to live sanely, creatively and happily… search for what you are.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“Meet your own self. Be with your own self, listen to it, obey it, cherish it, keep it in mind ceaselessly. You need no other guide. As long as your urge for truth affects your daily life, all is well with you. Live your life without hurting anybody. Harmlessness is a most powerful form of Yoga and it will take you speedily to your goal. This is what I call nisarga yoga, the Natural yoga.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“The more we are conscious, the deeper the joy. Acceptance of pain, non-resistance, courage and endurance — these open deep and perennial sources of real happiness, true bliss.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj

“Call it mindfulness, or witnessing, or just attention — it is for all. None is unripe for it and none can fail.”

Nisargadatta Maharaj