“Nic Higham’s book is not only wise, but also deeply human, honest, and compassionate. Nic’s own existential struggles with loneliness, isolation, forlornness, and angst were the portals to a more authentic Self that he has discovered and now shares in this book with great humility. Drawing on a wide range of wisdom teachings, including Nisargadatta’s “natural yoga” and what Nic calls “radical mindfulness,” Nic examines separateness in a way that is spiritually, psychologically, and philosophically astute. Throughout this process of Self-remembrance, Nic skillfully reveals the essential Aliveness that is always at the heart of experience and that is the source of greater harmony, wholeness, and connection.”
Michael A. Rodriguez, author of Boundless Awareness: A Loving Path to Spiritual Awakening and Freedom from Suffering
“When we dive into the ocean of our aloneness, our loneliness can come to an end. What a beautiful paradox to meditate upon. In The Life That You Are, Nic Higham challenges us to stop running away from our present experience –however uncomfortable or intense it is and plunge into the ocean of present moment awareness. This is not about ‘letting go’ of or ‘releasing’ our anxiety, our fears and sorrows. This is not about destroying the ego or becoming a spiritually enlightened, superhuman being, immune to the pains of being human. This is about being exactly as we are, human vulnerabilities and all. This is about letting go of our assumptions about reality and becoming deeply curious about ourselves, allowing our feelings instead of resisting them, watching our thoughts instead of trying to control them, questioning our beliefs instead of holding to them. This is about discovering the beauty in our ordinariness, the divine essence in our flaws, and coming to see that loneliness is not an enemy, or a mistake, or a sign of our failure, but a great signpost to non dual awareness, a call to remember this constant, brilliant light that illuminates our lives from deep within. Living The Life That You Are weaves together psychology, ancient wisdom and honest personal reflections into a coherent and inspiring whole. If loneliness is the great disease of the modern age, then Nic’s heartfelt plea for self love is much needed medicine. Even if your mind cannot comprehend all the ideas contained within this book, your heart will know the truth of them.
Living The Life That You Are is a reminder of your original nature, that unconditional love out of which the stars are born. Even if your mind cannot comprehend all the words contained within, your heart will know the truth of them.
Nic will take you on a journey to the place you never left – the present moment – where you will perhaps discover all the peace, love and joy you were always seeking.”
Jeff Foster, non-duality teacher and author
‘A deep and compassionate book that brings the wisdom of non-duality to our sense of loneliness and separation … taking us through these doorways to wholeness and freedom.’
Tim Freke, author of Deep Awake
“I’ve worked closely with Nic Higham for several years and have read his website posts about awakening with great interest and resonance. Working with Nic so closely over the years, I can assure you that his experience is direct. You can feel it for yourself as you read this book. It is my honor to introduce you to Nic if you aren’t aware of his writings yet.”
Scott Kiloby, CEO of The Kiloby Center for Recovery
“Nic writes well and has understood the teachings of Advaita. The book should work well as a guide and self-help, (as opposed to Self which needs no help!).”
Maria Jory, Editor of Beyond Freedom – Talks with Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj
“At the heart of Nic Higham’s meditative reflections on non-duality lies an invitation to deep self-inquiry. As any earnest seeker eventually realizes, life’s deepest truths cannot be known or attained by the mind; rather, the truth gradually reveals itself to those willing to look being the veil. Higham shows us that loneliness and anxiety -rather than being states we should attempt to overcome – can be portals into profound Self-intimacy. With kindness and clarity, he elucidates the qualities necessary for us to experience for ourselves what the phrase non-dual really means. As an experienced mental health professional, he has combined a deep understanding of both psychology and non-duality to create a work – both words and music – by which to guide us into the knowing we are all ultimately seeking.”
Fiona Robertson, senior facilitator and trainer of Scott Kiloby’s Living Inquiries, and author of The Art of Finding Yourself
“Having worked for many years in acute psychiatric wards and therapeutic groups, [Nic Higham] is very mindful of the needs of those people who are particularly lacking in power, validation and / or culturally reflective experiences… The book has a simple but profound message: live meditatively and inquiringly through cultivating the bespoke selection of mindfulness principles offered. Start your inner revolution with radical mindfulness: when you feel separate from life become your own best friend by shifting your focus of attention to your sense of being, a most loyal quality we all share. Nic shows readers how to locate and tap into this place to help them feel more connected with themselves and others. I cannot recommend enough the opportunity to bring his passion and experience to a wider audience.”
Jonathan Jenkins, Chief Executive London Air Ambulance